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SEVENTY FOUR ✖ TEXT

Just so everyone's aware, I'll be making myself available for anyone who feels that they're in need of counseling in light of what happened.

On a similar note, especially in light of Mark's disappearance, if anyone is interested in volunteering as a counselor to those who might need it, I'd be happy to discuss how to make that work.

[Unless you're a cannibalistic serial killer, in which case you will need to find somewhere else to hang out. :|]

[Filtered to various Friends & Family]

I apologize for not being in touch sooner. I'm alright, and I'd appreciate hearing from you when you've got opportunity.

[Private to Anya]

I hear some congratulations are in order.

[Private to Alex]

Can I come see you?

[ooc: Charles is unaffected by the flood, but if you'd like to be all cuddly and fond with him, I am def up for it. :]b If you think you should be on the filter, you are, and if anyone wants to backdate anything for post-MirrorBarge fallout, I am down!]

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I said he would need some training first. I never said he wasn't allowed, or that his abilities or his life experiences or whatever else made him unqualified and that would never change. But it isn't ethical to hand over the mental health and well being of another person over to someone who has absolutely no training, education or experience with treating mental illness and then call them a therapist. I don't understand why people aren't understanding that, and in the interest of being totally honest, I think it's ridiculous that I'm being put under fire for believing that.

You aren't under fire. You're just all making each other defensive. The more you talk about degrees and accreditation, the more it sounds like something you couldn't even impart on your own, because you aren't an institution.

I agree with you, okay. He has good instincts but he has...blind spots and fault lines and he needs to learn how to be - professional, for lack of a better word, before I'd hold him up as someone anyone could come to. But he's like me, he's going to talk to people and meddle whether he quite knows how to make it any better or not.

So don't tell him he needs training. Tell him you want to train him, and when would be a good time. It sounds like semantics but the implications are different. He might drag his feet a little now, see defensiveness above, but he likes to learn.

I'm aware of that.

You sound like you're saying he can't be qualified unless he has access to the - kind of qualifications you have. Which isn't actually what you're saying, and you feel attacked because people are responding to something unreasonable that you didn't mean to imply at all.

I know that. Don't tell me. Tell him. Okay?

Have you got a rough curriculum planned, by the way? I'd be interested.

Anya, this is literally the first day in a week I've felt physically capable of doing anything other than lying in bed feeling grateful that the death toll saw fit to keep the head injury I received during the event rather than the severed spinal chord. I don't have anything planned.

That's okay. I just wasn't sure how far along of an idea it was. It's a good thought. We can work out specifics when we're all a little bit less wrecked and on edge.

Do you mind if I come over? Not to have a talk or anything serious, just. I'll make you tea, or something, it's definitely my turn.

Alright. I'll keep the door unlocked.

I'll see you in a bit, then.

[And she does, maybe half an hour later, with a plate of warm fresh ginger snaps and a stack of the original Oz books. She knocks and then lets herself in, sets it down and starts looking for things to make the tea, calls out so he knows.]

It's just me.

[He hasn't gone far, and steps back into the room with an expression that's sort of approximating a smile. He looks a little pale, but for the most part, he does feel physically better, maybe even back to normal.

Emotionally is - obviously - an entirely different story, and it's frustrating to know that this is something that he can't just put behind him and walk away from. He'd really like to stop remembering what he'd done to Erik by getting killed, because he feels a little like a monster.]

Hello.

Hey. Sit down.

I brought you some books, by the way. I mean, you've probably read them already, but they're...fun.

[Good for distractions from what it's like around here. And Jean gave them to her; the cycle of it feels nice.]

[He does, although he is retrieving his Captain America shield patterned slanket from the couch and tossing it on the bed out of the way first. It has been getting a lot of use over the last week and he's not really embarrassed of it or anything? But it is kind of garish.]

Thank you. I definitely don't mind rereading the classics.

So. We've definitely established that I'm not a counselor. But if you need to talk to a friend who...isn't Erik, after everything that happened.

I'm here, is all.

[Or not. Or they could just have tea. Tea is good. She sets the kettle to boil.]

I don't really know what I want to talk about.

[It's honest, and it's not necessarily a dismissal, him saying no, I don't want to talk about this. He'd felt like maybe he was doing alright, that he was going to be okay, but obviously, he's not in a great place emotionally right now.]

When people do things out of love for you, it's easy to feel like it's your fault.

[She says it gently, but not overly so. She doesn't think of Charles as fragile, even if he's in a fragile place. It's just something she has learned to handle gently as part of being kinder to herself.]

Or you could teach me about tree frogs or something. We've got options.

[That hurts, because she's so right. He's still upset with himself because he should have been more careful, because Erik shouldn't have to go through that again or to have to live with those memories, but he knows logically maybe that's not fair to himself, or to Erik, or any of them. He takes a sort of shaky breath - it's not one that's signalling hysterical sobs or anything like that, but it's a little unsteady - and rubs his hands over his face, wondering if he should take the out and dig up some facts about tree frogs.]

I could probably manage either one. I'm mostly just... frustrated. It's exhausting trying to do any amount of good here.

It is, yes. But you've done more good than you...see, I think.

I don't think the barge as a whole is allowed to get better. It's a testing ground, and if you can't learn to be good even when it's hard, even when the world is miserable and unfair and painful - because every world outside the barge is going to be miserable and unfair and painful, at times - then you haven't really learned.

But person to person, we can make a difference, same as out there. And you've done quite a lot of that.

I know. And I don't mean that in some conceited way, I've just been reminded of it a lot by certain people, even when I'm feeling particularly low. But I'm tired of putting myself out there only to be treated to people's passive aggressive attempts at proving what a terrible person I must actually be when all I honestly want to do is take Erik and go home. But I can't just pretend like I'm not capable of helping and leave everyone without an option for support.

Charles, I'm pretty sure the only person who actually ever wanted to prove you were terrible was me, and that was mostly because I was really invested in everyone being secretly terrible back then, and you were so...meticulously inoffensive. And I failed spectacularly. It was very frustrating.

[She says it with a rough smile, casual and affectionate.]

People just...I don't think you let yourself see it, when people misunderstand you. Maybe because some subconscious telepathic part of you just...expects the meaning to be communicated. Or maybe some people did stubbornly misinterpret you because of their own damage and now that's just what you expect. Or maybe it's something else entirely, I don't know. But when people argue without venom you think it's got to be passive aggression, that it's got to be an attack, and you sort of...entrench.

I'm not saying it's all your fault, or that it doesn't hurt, because it's not and obviously it does. It's just...a pattern I've noticed, a little.

I know. I know how exhausting and - and thankless it feels, trying to take care of everyone all the time. It's awful. And maybe it makes you...I mean, general you, you and me and everyone like that, it makes us a little nuts, because we are trying so damn hard and every criticism feels like...god, what's even the point, if it's still not good enough? But I don't think people are usually saying that, most of the time. It just...feels like it. And that sucks.

Anya, Iris admitted she went in looking for a fight. And I'm sick of it.

She admitted that she overreacted and lashed out at you because you stumbled over one of her sore spots. That is different from looking for a fight or deliberately twisting your words to make you an ego maniac or trying to prove you're anything. This is exactly what I mean, Charles.

She says she was being unfair to you and some part of you thinks that means she must be doing it on purpose, but that's just not true.

It still hurts. You've every right to be sick of it, and you've every right to take a break, even if you don't feel like you can, and to tell her off like you did. I'm not saying this to make it your responsibility to untangle every flare-up, I swear. It's really not, and she did react badly, and if she hadn't apologized already I'd have insisted on it. But she doesn't have it out for you, and I just...I think it might hurt less if you didn't see things through that lens, that's all.

Edited 2013-11-11 01:01 (UTC)

I don't think Iris specifically has it out for me. I'm frustrated because the conversation would have gone very differently if she had just said what was bothering her, instead of implying that I was somehow trying to subjugate Zane or tell him he didn't have a right to be here or want to help because she was upset about something she still hasn't really articulated to me. I'm also frustrated because I've had several people recently express that they're concerned about why I'm so unhappy all the time, and then when I try to explain why that's the case, the discussion turns into me being at fault again. It isn't exactly incentive to open up any more than I already have.

I don't think anybody thought you were trying to subjugate him. She'd have said that right out if she thought it, Iris doesn't hold things back. As she demonstrated rather terribly just now.

[She sighs. She feels horribly like she's sliding on sliprock into doing the exact same thing, when it's the last thing she wants to do; but she can see him making defensive assumptions that only contribute to his misery, and she wishes she could just yank the patterns of it out. That, she supposes, is why they need training.]

It's not your fault you're unhappy. You're enduring so much, from people wrapped up in their own hurts taking things out on you and from this place that drains people dry and then cracks them open again and you just - you keep taking on even more, because you care so much. It's awful, and it's not you're fault. You're amazing for trying as much as you have.

[She's tearing up a little, and it's in her voice but she doesn't let them fall, because it's supposed to be about him, but she just. She's heartbroken for him, for the the exhaustion and invisible isolation he's confiding in her, and she cares so much more than she expected to, even one month ago.]

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with all of that, Charles. I really am. And about feeling like people wouldn't hear you most of all.

[She comes over to him, hand hovering near his shoulder for a second, not sure if even the small, bracing touch would be welcome. And then, in a typical-atypical moment of recklessness, she decides to just full throttle the thing, and wraps her arms around him in a hug.]

[It catches him off guard, and it takes him a moment to return it, if only for that reason. He also doesn't really understand why it might be hitting her this hard - they haven't talked much about her mother, but he's touched and surprised and has immediately felt like he needs to comfort her, too when he hears how emotional she's getting.

So he puts his arms around her and rubs her back, fighting past the tightness in his chest and focusing on just breathing. He's tired of feeling broken and helpless and he definitely doesn't want to cry, so he breathes and focuses on calm.]

Thank you.

[She's listening, and she does understand, and it's just good to hear that someone other than Erik understands. That it wasn't a terrible mistake to open up to her.]

I'll be alright.

[She laughs softly, a little jagged, because she knows exactly what he's doing, but she doesn't know how to pull back from hurting for him without looking like she's pulling back from caring, too.]

This isn't even supposed to be about me. I'm going to be fine.

[She doesn't let go, though, just stands cheek to cheek with him, almost exactly of a height, and squeezes a little tighter. She feels oddly, unnecessarily, instinctively comforted by the hand on her back, and something burbles up inside her, raw feeling as much as much as thought, fierce and absolute: I wish you were my real family. The you is broad, Charles and Erik and Alex and Jean a little too, but she has Erik one way or another already; Charles is the centerpoint of the desire. It would matter less, maybe, how often they don't quite get on, if they had that other bond to hold through instead of just Erik and tea. She never really saw eye to eye with Magda either, not even when she was a precocious and stubborn three-year-old. But they were part of each other anyway, flesh and blood.]

[He's not sure if he was supposed to hear that, but after a moment's hesitation, he's responding to it anyway.]

I hope this isn't too presumptuous, but as far as I'm concerned, you are a part of my real family. [Along with Erik and Raven and Alex and Jean, not to mention Sean and Hank back home, even Darwin and Moira.]

I've never put too much stake in blood being thicker than water. [Because it's just been so painfully untrue for him. It wasn't even that his mother and stepfather had genuinely hated him or anything, they just didn't care, and the fact that he had people who did meant so much more to him.]

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